Why Being Attractive To Women Changes Your Perspective- Jordan Peterson


you know Louis CK a while back talked about Tiger Woods which and I really like it because people are complaining about tiger woods and his affairs and also about Arnold Schwarzenegger and his affairs and one of the things Louis CK pointted out quite in a comical manner was well many men are not having the affair of Tiger Woods but that is not because they are good men it is because they don’t have I think he said: “A bus loaded of Swedish bikini models waiting for them at the final hall so the idea would be that you should conduct yourself so that you are attractive to many women many you have the pick of them but then you should pick one and that is the sacrifice. obviously, that is the sacrifice of the sword it is a strang sacrifice because you know I talked to someone, a comedian recently who told be one of his experiences in Las Vegas so he went to Las Vegas with a sport`s superstar and they went to a party and what literally happened at the party was that one woman brought forward a small group of other women, all of them is attractive, and basically told the sport legend that he could just pick one of them and she would go home with them, right? and so that has all been arranged beforehand and he said that he has been in many situations where something like that had happened and I thought well you know that sort of is appealing to the Hugh Hefner Playboy, 14 years old fantasy that sort of rip our culture from the 1960s onward but imagine you sleep casually with 100 women in a 6-month period or 3-month period for that matter or 3-week period, I don’t care, pick your timeframe he says well what and you´re static with yourself because you´d be validated with this opportunity and I´m not making light of that It´s not nothing to be attractive to women like that It´s really something to be attractive to women like that But it isn´t obvious to me that your choice to conduct yourself in that manner enriches your life and the life of other people more in anyway than pickin one person and actually having a relationship with her It´s only true that That promiscuous pathway, let´s say It´s better, if you can actually divorce sexuality from all the other realms of life Say what is about variety and what is abaut impulsive pleasure Or maybe it could be slightly deeper than merely impulsive pleasure could be Shared impulsive pleasure, but I don´t think you can do that Because sexuality isn´t divorceable from family and from morality and from all the other elements of your life, and if your mature you know that. So you make a decision you make a decision not to capitalize on your opportunity, not to misuse your opportunity And you know, a huge part of the


100 Responses

  1. Vikas Kumar

    December 1, 2019 8:31 pm

    I agree with everything he said but i'll never be able to get over the fact that I've only been with one woman.

  2. Cybernetic Butterfly

    December 1, 2019 11:10 pm

    How many people when looking back at their life regret having been promiscuous?
    How many when looking back at life regret a lifetime of stress and hard work at a relationship?
    Which regret is the felt the heaviest and the hardest?

    Which price paid was biggest?
    The answer isn't clear to me.

  3. Della Calfee

    December 1, 2019 11:42 pm

    After watching a dozen or so of these videos by this fellow I can’t help but notice the content is almost never related to the title

  4. John Swid

    December 2, 2019 2:50 am

    It was Bill Burr who said that about Tiger Woods. And with today's women, juice ain't worth the squeeze.

  5. Aspartame Is Healthy

    December 2, 2019 3:50 am

    Having sex is the most superficial crap I've ever experienced, it feels good, but that's about it.

  6. Nils Jansen

    December 2, 2019 6:01 am

    never saw anyone more carefully formulating his sentences while at the same time having minimal information in them.

  7. Next Level Intactivism

    December 2, 2019 8:16 am

    The man who pretends to be a man happy with half his dick. This man is a fake and a hack. Men’s rights? How about the mother fucking right to our WHOLE body?

    Most of you are missing half the skin of your dicks and 75% of the nerves like this quack hack Peterless bitch ass coward.

    And y’all soak up his idiocrocy.

  8. neversayjello

    December 2, 2019 8:27 am

    nobody gives a fuck about destabilizing society. nobody gives a fuck about being a casual sex partner themselves either.

  9. Al'set Barnabi

    December 2, 2019 8:48 am

    JP is completely scared of women. It comes across in all his previous youtube videos. His wife must be a saint!

  10. Tanowa

    December 2, 2019 10:03 am

    It seems apparent that he is uncomfortable with this topic. No doubt because he wasn't a Casanova back in the day. Let me sum it up. Being attractive to women, makes you more confident. Being more confident makes you more attractive to women. The more women are attracted to you, the more women are attracted to you. However, sleeping with 150 women doesn't make you happier, in fact it often makes you lonely. While staying with just one woman, and proving your loyalty to her, does make you a better man, and if you picked the right woman, then you'll be happier as well.

  11. Tae Tae Ate My Potato

    December 2, 2019 10:57 am

    as a gay woman, yes I attractive to woman not because they're beautiful. I attractive to how they're act and how they're talk. So I find these attractive in average girls like not too ugly and not too beautiful. I don't mean that I don't like attractive people, attractive people also has these things

  12. antonen87

    December 2, 2019 12:59 pm

    Even though I used to think about Jordan as a very eloquent douchebag, I must admit what he said here resonated with me very much.

  13. AngelusSolus

    December 2, 2019 2:12 pm

    Not being attractive also changes your perspective. Women seem wicked, when you're unwanted. Rest well Jim. Seriously though, when no one wants you, you become embittered and start doubting your self worth and turn into a shut-in neet whose favourite songs are "I Am a Rock" by Simon and Garfunkel and "Bring Me To Life" be Evanescence and holds one-sided conversations with their cat. It's shite!

  14. The Truth

    December 2, 2019 4:22 pm

    "100 Swedish bikini models."

    I guess it goes without saying that Tiger Woods wouldn't be interested in 100 African bikini models.

    White beauty is so overwhelmingly desired by men, that it never even occurs to anybody to question it in public discourse.

    We're so used to seeing black athletes with white wives, that when we see black athletes with BLACK wives….it actually confuses us. It looks so strange to us.

  15. Self Justice

    December 2, 2019 9:11 pm

    I have always, ALWAYS been a one woman man. But I've gone through alot of women because either i've been rejected by the ones I really want, or, once you dip below the surface of some women, they're either unstable or carry too much baggage and you ultimately don't want to add it in your life. Then to be more efficient, you deal with several women simultaneously (it just happens rather naturally once you know the one you're looking at doesn't have what you need). I'm definitely not perfect, but my stability is on point. And It's been hell on wheels to find that stability in someone else…erego, a higher body count.

  16. elmerfadd

    December 3, 2019 2:58 am

    In other words, those who are not (trying to get) into a monogamous relationship are destabilizing society?

  17. Saratoga

    December 3, 2019 5:55 am

    My thing is this would if your really good at talking with women and making the first move but the lady is not making the first move

  18. Alex Nolla

    December 3, 2019 9:45 am

    I believe the comedian he hanged out with was in fact Louis C.K. thus the confusion with Bill Burr's bikini joke…

  19. Mississauga Reps 2002

    December 3, 2019 10:43 am

    Jordan! Your research is slipping. It was Bill Burr who does that skit, not Louis CK.


  20. GFR Records

    December 3, 2019 11:03 am

    It really depends on the life you live and the person who chooses to live with you. There are many lives many different stories. Not one can relate to all

  21. GFR Records

    December 3, 2019 11:05 am

    There are actual people who choose to love and live morally right and not be casted into the lives of animal ways or instincts. Yes majority of women and men think this way but that because they are still thinking as if they are an animal and not the alien part of humanity the part that makes us civilized

  22. Truth Over Facts

    December 3, 2019 11:24 am

    Once you know how attractive you are and what type of girls you can attract, you then have the choice to pursue vanity or personality. I believe a good balance of both is pretty healthy.

  23. daszieher

    December 3, 2019 1:52 pm

    So many comments of insecure men.

    The teachings of this video apply only to men who actually could lead a promiscuous life, but chose not to. And they chose not to, not on the base of petty morality or some sort of stupid religious code, but for his own sake, because he is worth more to himself and wants be a meaningful contribution to someone else's life.

    No more, no less.

  24. Fifthlevelbard

    December 3, 2019 5:48 pm

    Not absolutely everything Dr. Peterson says I fully agree with (and not because he's wrong, just partially right, the argument just isn't fleshed out enough for me on some topics) but this I fully agree with. Having been on both sides of the fence, from not being attractive to women at all to being coveted (but not on a Tiger woods level mind you) I can say monogamy is important. Or rather, to put it like this, foundational structure and order are important to be a productive adult, not just for society, albeit they benefit, but for yourself. Have one or have none, that's my advice gentlemen.

  25. Dean

    December 3, 2019 6:33 pm

    Who CARES about being attractive to women, why are we still so obsessed with pleasing women, move on…..the future is all about men

  26. Captain Voluntaryist The Statist Slayer

    December 3, 2019 8:15 pm

    Men need to stop being complete cucks and place women at the center. The problem starts with the excess worship of women, and society brainwashing studs to jump into relationships just because…just because nature and stuff. When you don't worship anything, you'll live a worry-free life. So focus on your carrer or hobbies, we already got too much fucking population.

  27. MR no one

    December 3, 2019 8:54 pm

    Christian values right there. There are many that believe monogamy is unnatural and the source of much misery and men leading desperate lives. Its our cultural beliefs based on religious beliefs that tell us we need to pick one partner and stick to him her. https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/B004ADQAPM/ref=zg_bs_16926972011_5?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=CNT87DHXG5DBX44G58WT

  28. a

    December 3, 2019 11:22 pm

    100 women – 3 weeks
    That's 21 days.
    100/21 = 4

    I've done the math and the conclusion is that you guys shouldn't aim at that.
    It's not sustainable, you'll burn yourself out and end up depressed.

  29. TheLogicJunkie

    December 3, 2019 11:33 pm

    There is really nothing more cynical or depressing than the actual Nazi reality of the female "heart". Putting females on any kind of pedestal in the first place was probably more an act of total desperation and wishful thinking than anything else.

  30. Boy Zao

    December 4, 2019 12:17 am

    why should you pick one if you can shag a thousand. peterson talks a lot of nonsense about sex. he is a sexually repressed conservative.

  31. Zac Adam Morrison

    December 4, 2019 12:54 am

    Why is everyone's dating life their problem?

    Society melting

    You all even add girls from friends Facebook. Society melting again


  32. liltunechi4

    December 4, 2019 1:47 am

    What is this old geezer going on about. What does the metoo movement have to do with casual sexual partners? If it’s consensual between two adults then what’s the problem? Women and beta males are eating this garbage up. If you want this then go be in a relationship but stop trying to tell other people what to do or make it seem like “it’s not right” to have casual sex.

  33. tjs W3

    December 4, 2019 2:44 am

    TW at Stanford University was a deeply talented and insecure young man. Women flocked to him but he had not the skill or the confidence.
    Men that attract large numbers of women are often not aware of the long term consequences of their behavior. Which is then often too late.
    Neglect of your humanity is always consequential.

  34. wigglesize

    December 4, 2019 3:47 am

    It’s not natural in any way to be monogamous. If it were, divorce lawyers wold be out of a job and the word affair wouldn’t exist.
    To be with one person is a sacrifice because you sacrifice your natural and daily present attraction to other people.
    The more people you sleep with the more likely to pass on your genes, simple as that.
    Some people are fine with monogamy, others struggle greatly.
    Life is not black and white. You can be poor and charismatic, and still attract plenty. Rich men just attract gold digging morons and never know which one’s genuine, sounds fun doesn’t it….

  35. x86 Assembly

    December 4, 2019 5:54 am

    Women who are only attracted at men for their money, should probably turn lesbian or asexual, because they don't seem to be sexually attracted to men, only their money.

  36. Lisa

    December 4, 2019 6:18 am

    Gonna disagree because I travel work and I have sex urges. I consider myself noble in many ways in society, you can only go against what nature wants so I’m going to say casual sex is normal.

  37. p0rt3r

    December 4, 2019 7:02 am

    The whole idea of seducing a rich prince is to become his fairy tale princess and be rich, too.
    Yet, here we have women lining up for sex like cheap hookers, to become the fairy tale princess of a prince, who has a long history of not marrying women, who line up for sex like cheap hookers. And when he doesn't marry them, they move on to line up for the next prince…

  38. Pflaster Rapper

    December 4, 2019 7:21 am

    But if you consider it a sacrifice that moment it becomes one, and it isn't the same dission than loving one woman

  39. thecahn

    December 4, 2019 12:30 pm

    I think I’m going to stop watching movies and shows. Handing a direct interface to your brain over to Hollywood for hours is a great way to get brainwashed and never have any goals of your own.

  40. Mertin

    December 4, 2019 12:43 pm

    The power and money just gives the ladddieeessss more to think about and more to play on.
    If you are attractive it’s a diff story

    Same for a man but they don’t have as much control. You can sleep with a bit so not good looking women then nut and get this guilt over you instantly. I have experienced it and I’m gonna say as high as 60/70% of men will too

    Thing is a man goes in a room with 100 women lucky if 5 wants to sleep with him
    A women goes in a room of a 100 men. Chances are upwards up 75/80% want to sleep with the women

  41. Gugarko Jack

    December 4, 2019 1:42 pm

    I have watched a couple of this man's videos. It just states the obvious , using a elitist register.

  42. Benjabola

    December 4, 2019 3:31 pm

    It'a tricky and delicate to explain this concept to young men. I think ideally a man's father should communicate this.

  43. Pt Bot

    December 4, 2019 6:04 pm

    One thing for sure is tiger didnt pick any of those swedish models. Did you see the ones he chose? Same with Arnold. Why do they pick some really not beautiful women.

  44. Donald Frederick

    December 4, 2019 6:39 pm

    Towards the middle he brings up ME TOO and ignored the very concept that part of that was about lack of consent and the consequences of those who had refused UNWANTED sexual advances.

  45. Cheryl

    December 4, 2019 9:24 pm

    And it is this point of view and belief that makes Jordan Peterson even more attractive than before. Honor, integrity and respect are so hot 🙂

  46. David Uribe

    December 4, 2019 9:28 pm

    One important context was missing:

    Casual until that right one comes along, and I think that’s noble.

    You shouldn’t have to start a relationship with one just because you can. You start a relationship with one when the time is right for both partners, and the personalities click. Sexual attraction =/= a character match.

  47. Charles Tuo

    December 4, 2019 9:41 pm

    Alot of Should be,should not be,be noble etc etc.

    Alot of what is implied as(and making it appear as) conclusions / arguments but what it is is just alot of speculation. A bunch of talk but no probative value.


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